College Guide to Managing Emotions After a Breakup

Being heartbroken in college might look like it’s already the end of the world. It might seem trivial for some, but we do understand that ending a relationship can be too much for others. For some people, do not know how to move forward and to start again. 

If you are one of those, you might think, “How can other people manage this kind of feeling?” 

Tell you what, everyone is afraid of going back to zero. It’s normal. Whether it’s about you transferring to another school, migrating to another country, changing a career, losing a family member, or even losing your favorite pet, you can’t imagine life without it. And it all falls to a certain feeling of what we call fear. But have you ever asked yourself which is more frightening during your college days? Losing a partner or failing your course? 

Everyone has their own way of dealing with a broken heart. Some are drinking all night, some are writing songs or poems, some are masochists and want to listen to sad songs or watch sad movies. It depends on your personal outlet or your ways to ease that feeling. But if you are still lost and have no idea what to do, then this post is for you. Let us give you a few tips on how to cope up with a break up while in college. 

Embrace the Pain

It will hurt, definitely. But the first step is to accept that your relationship has ended and that you have to face a future without your partner. Does that mean you should ignore the pain? No. In fact, most experts suggest that you embrace the pain. But don’t drown yourself in that. Absorb everything but have a deadline. Most people would say, allot 24 hours to succumb to the pain. And then get up and move on. 

Go Back to Your Priorities

Reality check, you are in college, so your core priority must be studying and to finish your degree. People around you are there to be your inspiration, but that doesn’t mean your partner is your only motivation. Think about what you want for yourself and forget the plans you made with your ex. Remember, pleasing others is a big NO if you want to preserve your self-worth. Pick yourself up. Check out online articles about regaining your self-worth and even join groups online that help other people who just got out of a relationship. 

Keep Yourself Busy 

Find an outlet to make yourself busy. Again, it’s about time that you focus on your studies. Perhaps, you need to connect with your friends and even your family and spend more time with them. Think about your passion. Go back to painting or even enroll in a special class. 

We recommend that you divert your thoughts to something more productive than crying and making yourself worse. If you feel like keeping yourself away from social media, then do so. You can deactivate your accounts if you wish. 

Envision a Great Future 

Another technique that you can do right now is to think about your future. Of course, as much as you want your partner to be in it, we all know it’s nearly impossible. So why not imagine yourself landing a career in your dream company. Or perhaps, visualize yourself traveling around the globe. These thoughts could pacify the pain, and you will be more than pumped up to study, get good grades, and have a great job to fulfill your dreams. 

It’s Not the End 

Always think that your break up is not the end. In fact, it could be a beginning. As cliché as this may sound, there is always hope. If one door closes, there are windows of opportunities to open. 

Paulo Coelho once said, “If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.” For now, embrace the adage, mind over matter. 

At the end of the day, it is always you who can help yourself to be whole again. We have many people around us who will give us advice and share their own experiences for us to learn. Yet again, it is up to us how we are going to deal with it. 

Let’s have another cliché saying here, shall we? Time can heal wounds. So make your time worth it by improving yourself. Sooner or later, you would realize that you can live without your partner, and that your love for yourself is more than enough.